Follow Me You Beotch
Alternate Title: How to be Anti-Social on Social media
Ok so I just had an interesting thing happen to me.
I found a pretty good article about different Twitter tools that people could use and wanted to put it on Tweeter blog. I didn’t know the author so I figured i would give her the courtesy of letting her know I was going to use her article .
I like to do things like this in Direct message but this person wasn’t following me so I sent her a polite message:
@SnottyBeotch Hi There … can you follow me please ,, I want to ask you a question In DM
to which she replied
@SnottyBeotch @JackBastide – I don’t follow people just because they ask me to. Use the contact form on my website like everybody else, thanks
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(um hello …. I politely ask you to follow me so I can DM you and you give me a response like that?. You have no idea of what I wanted
1 – I could have been telling you you won the lottery
2 – I could have been wanting to buy your goods and services
3 – I could have been a long lost relative trying to connect
And I was going to put your article on my blog as a Twitter Expert? … umm I don’t think so)
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so I replied :
@SnottyBeotch umm no thanks I don’t like Contact forms on web sites. I was going to ask you if I could use your article on my blog
@SnottyBeotch But with an attitude like that I just changed my mind AND Unfollowed you as well .. Obviously you are NOT a Savvy Twitter user
to which she replied
@SnottyBeotch @JackBastide – yeah look I’m devastated
Ok, the person’s name is not really @SnottyBeotch. I’m not going to out her here because that would be mean-spirited. But SnottyBeotch, we could have made beautiful music together. We could have done JV’s together. I could have been a major connection for you …
Alas … now none of that will happen . Because you’re a Snotty Beotch
Moral of the Story: If somebody politely asks you to follow them so they can DM you … just do it!. It’s not that big of a deal. You can always delete em later!
So I guess my question is this : Why would anybody purposely be Anti-Social on a Social media?
Thoughts?
Jack Bastide
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Comments
LOL…wow maybe this individual isn’t savvy when it comes to social media. Ignorance is not bliss…and the loss of potential connections is not the way to do business in the 21st century.
Timothy C
Well look at @snottybeotch’s pic, obviously her online presence is purely over compensation for her real life insecurities. Opps was that mean?
I thought your request was reasonable and can’t understand why someone would react that way. The only excuses I can think of is a) they thought you were a spammer or b) you interrupted their Xmas party?? 
The way I figure it, there’s no excuse for rudeness be it on or offline, and evidently you’re better off without the beotch! he he
Scum comes in many forms. Obviously the best part of snottybeoch didn’t [form that is]. Well the name said it all. And true to her character she was.
Now would I be? No. Pretty sure that transparent out there.
Wow ur hostmonster adds are synchronized. Man I need some sleep.
I’m with you. Drop an egg on her head! So forgiving aint I?
Dan–
Jack,
So true. Your sense of humor is amusing. Beotch? Why WOULD anyone be so anti-social on social media? Twitter is so easy to use and manage. Just control the flow, follow and/or unfollow. Easy…
@LongestWiener
JackieLouTheDoxie
p.s. You can tweet me anytime – and I *am* a bitch – a real one, a female dog. ha! Arroo, Jack.
p.p.s. Jack – my hooman says hi AND – please, if you want to talk just do this…
“7 Easy Steps To Talking to a Snotty Beotch”
1. Create an account at MySnottyBeotchHelpDesk.ME
2. Wait - just wait – for a non-secure password sent with your UserName in the SAME message.
3. Confirm the really long, ugly link in the “double opt-in” e-mail message in order to activate your new SnottyBeotchHelpDesk.ME account.
4. Create a support ticket if you can determine how to navigate this cheesy, open-source software.
5. Tell me what is on your mind.
6. Wait until I’m darn good and ready to answer you. After all, I AM a “SnottyBeotch.” 
7. Rinse and repeat.
Just kidding, Jack. Seriously, just follow and DM ppl. It’s really simple. Jack, you’re funny…
@CheriSigmon
WOW.. is what first springs to mind.. which bit of “social” does this lady not understand?
You would think that if she is savvy enough to be a regular on Twitter, and knowledgable enough for Jack to want her to guest blog here.. that she would “get” the whole thing much better, no?..
Quite amusing really.. she destroyed what could be an incredibly profitable relationship before it even started
peace
Jay
Some people don’t use DM. If you can ask to be followed, why not just say what you want to say?
If anything, DM’ing is less social because nobody else can join the conversation. Now, had you previously built a relationship with this person and actually had a valid reason to speak to them in private, I’m sure them following you would have been a much simpler matter.
Well seems like this lady thinks she can build a biz with no people! Does she not know that the core of any business is public relations!
Does she not know that Public Relations means respecting people!
Does she not know that Twitter is a social media tool and to be social means being genuinely interested in people and their world?
I am ashamed to note she is from my country — but not all kiwis are like that!
I am glad you fit the bill Jack – you qualify to build a real business and talk about social media, because you set the example.
Keep up the great work!
Jill
I think I know who you are talking about for someone similar had some “suggestions” for me too. LOL I’m constantreader on twitter by the way.
Hey, It looks like she is going to become famous. It is nice when it happens to a deserving person.
@sasxjb
“Fill out a form like everybody else does”
WTF?
Maybe I’ll just have “my people” contact her people lol
Jack
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@JayXtreme – My point exactly.
But it was for the best. I was going to have a Guest blogger on Twitter who doesn’t Understand Twitter
I guess I have to do a better job of screening people
Jack
Not sure who you were dealing with, but some of these people get a lot of requests just like yours. They can’t very well just follow everyone because most of the time it’s just spammers or people trying to pitch them.
I see where this person probably could have been “nicer”, but saying someone doesn’t know how to use Twitter just because they didn’t want to follow you is kind of extreme.
If someone asked me to follow them just so they could DM me, that would automatically be suspicious and I would need a reason if I didn’t know them at all.
Jack, I don’t understand a lot of people. I follow everyone who follows me because I don’t want to be unkind to anyone.
There are just people out there with ego’s the size of twitter! They think that they are unstoppable, but unfortunately that will be their downfall. What goes up must come down!
God obviously shut that door for a reason for you. Look at it like that and move on. You did not need her!
Blessings to you today, Shelly
Only goes to show that there’s nowt so queer as folk as we used to say when I was a kid. I wonder if she was born with that attitude or if she takes lessons.
If she didn’t want to permanently follow you, she could always have followed you while you asked her the question via DM and then unfollowed you
If you want a guest blogger on Twitter who doesn’t understand Twitter I can think of a number of very well qualified candidates
Heck @McHammer follows people and we have shared a few DM”s
I guess maybe she and I have a different philosophy. I am here to connect with people. I will follow anybody and give them the benefit of the doubt
I have never known a Spammer to sent and @Reply asking to be followed
honesty lt it would have been MUCH better to just ignore my request then to come back with some Delusion of Grandeur Response
that being said .. the whole thing doesn’t bother me in the least. It just makes for an interesting discussion on Twitter Etiquette
Jack Bastide
http://Twitter.com/JackBastide
Sometimes in life we encounter these negative souls.
Sometimes we encounter positive ones.
Be thankful for both! Each will help you grow….
Support the positive souls and let the negative ones go.
Self importance is always a mask for self unimportance!
Jack,
Some people believe they are more important than the rest of the world believes they are. Obviously she truly does not understand the purpose of social media on an intellectual or emotional level. Negative attitudes really only hurt the person that is carrying that attitude around. I think it is good that you have exposed this kind of attitude to help educate twitter users.
Thanks heaps
LOVED Mr. Costs Maya’s comment. Perfect!
From his comment “Be thankful for both! Each will help you grow…”
Jack, I just learned from your negative encounter. Thanks for sharing.
Okay, that’s a very scary post, people who claim to be social media experts and then turn out to be anti-social are just plain stupid, look at Robert Scoble for example or Gary Vaynerchuk, both are very good examples of how to be social, asking people for their opinions and stuff, that’s how she should’ve behaved towards your request, its simple to follow someone and then unfollow, she is not just an anti-social person, she is a lazy selfish person, whom I bid just uses Twitter to get more people to her blog , if someone asks for her advice or ask for anything from her she must answer back with a polite response, Twitter is all about being friendly and establish new friendships and the most important part share the knowledge..great responses from you btw .
Very rude, not embracing the entire idea of “social” media. I, like others that have commented – appreciate the wise words of Costa Maya. Thanks for calling out this unacceptable behavior – I’m sure you aren’t the first to have this beotch encounter on Twitter – just the first to call it out.
Hey Jack!
I must agree with you 100% on this one. Some people just don’t get it. They throw a fit when all you’re trying to do is help them, promote them, or the like.
Unfortunately, she has an interesting blog. And had it not been for your recent interaction with her, I may have followed her and subscribed to her blog. (And then quickly realized I was dealing with a beotch, and quit following!)
You handled the situation a lot better than I would have! I have no time for rude, ignorant people, online or offline.
Thanks!
So, Twitter etiquette involves asking people to follow you and berating them on your blog when they don’t?
Many of you here have said that this person provides valuable content, yet most of you have also said you will not follow her content because she has decided not to follow Jack based on his request.
I hope you all realize that following people who provide valuable content is the point of Twitter and of Social Media in general. The type of behavior in this post and this comment thread will only lead to you shooting yourself in the foot.
To make it clearer: You shouldn’t be worried about who is following you, you should be worried about who you are listening to.
Rasheen,
I think the point is it was a simple request to be able to send a DM. If one is using SOCIAL media, shouldn’t that mandate being SOCIAL? The reaction to the request was NOT at all social. That’s fine if that is who that person is but why participate in a SOCIAL media if one is not a SOCIAL being?
As for the content, we all take content at its face value until we learn that there is something different behind the face. The meaning of that content loses its value if the message does not align with the truth of the source.
@SeanWoodruff
The notion that it is anti-social to want to talk openly in public as opposed to in private messages is simply ridiculous. Robert Scoble doesn’t accept DM’s at all. Jack wasn’t blocked or ignored by this person. He was able to have a conversation just fine. He just didn’t like the terms. No reason to bash the other person.
You are alone in your second statement. If someone says the sky is blue, it’s still going to be blue whether they are an asshole or a bitch. Some of the top bloggers in the tech arena are not all that pleasant to interact with, but they have huge followings because they consistently provide useful information. If you believe what people say just because they’re nice to you…well, that’s your choice.
@Rasheen I purposefully did not name the person because honestly it wasn’t a big deal. I don’t give a cr*p who follows me and who doesn’t,. I just mentioned it because I thought it would make an interesting blog post.
I wanted to talk business with this person and I don’t talk business in Public I do it in Direct Messages, The way Twitter is set up somebody has to follow you in order to do that … End of story.
The person wanted me to jump though hoops to talk to them. I haven’t jumped thorough hoops for anybody since I was in the circus … lol
If somebody politely asks me to follow them I will .. Its no big deal, its a click of a mouse
As far as for providing interesting content who cares? Content is a dime a dozen. If i have the choice of getting content from somebody thats cool or somebody thats a jackass I’m going for the cool person every time.
But thats just me
I’m not saying don’t follow this person ,, I didn’t even say who they were
Jack
Wow. That is hilarious, to say the least! A bit of a bug up her ass, ya think? lol
Good that you didn’t end up giving her some exposure in the long run anyway. You would have only found out about how much of a Beotch she was after it was too late!
Better to know it now, NOT AFTER you have already shared your cookies!
I can’t stand mean, snooty people!
So, you’d take social advice from a member of the KKK and believe it didn’t have an ulterior motive?
Your example of the sky being blue is a fact. Technical issues are facts. A social interaction is completely different.
I knew there was a reason I HIRE technical people to work FOR ME rather than being one of them.
I know I am a bit late to comment here but I figured someone might read it! I agree the person could have used a bit more tact when replying! That said, I don’t think they did anything wrong per say. The first thing I thought of when reading the post was the possibility this person simply had a system… If you have multiple companies, multiple social networks, multiple emails, multiple etc., is it far-fetched to create a system any requests you receive? Is it possible this person was just having a bad day? Is it possible this person just needs some advice on how to respond?
Here is another thought regarding the post…
“But SnottyBeotch, we could have made beautiful music together. We could have done JV’s together. I could have been a major connection for you …”
But Jack, if you would of just used my web form! Sure I come off rude sometimes, sure I might need to learn how to reply to requests. But what if you would have just filled out the web form? I could have been your guest blogger Rock Star! I could have been a huge JV for you! All you had to do was fill out the web form…
Either way lot’s of lessons here and I truly appreciate the post and all the comments!
http://www.twitter.com/alanunderkofler
I say this… why get yourself all twisted up in knots, resorting to name calling and swearing. Why does anyone feel a snese of entitlement over whether someone follows them or not? If someone sends me a note saying “follow me I want to tell you something” my first thought is “why didn’t you just tell me openly”. I probably would have followed you on my own without the “Prime Directive” (i’m not the person Jacko is talking about BTW)
To Jack i say… maybe YOU need to learn how to communicate with others instead of expecting them to learn how to communicate with you. To SOME of your posters I say… “get a bar of soap and clea out your mouth”, who needs all the swear words. To everyone I say “Grow Up Y’all”. Who says Twitter is the same thing for everyone. I unfollow anyone who drops the F-bomb in my twitter stream. If I see it, you use it a LOT since I am hardly ever there.
I don’t follow people who demand I do. I don’t much care who likes it either! LOL (I wonder how many social cast-outs are complaining on some blog post about it.)
Shelly Dear are you calling me a Social Outcast? lol
Bottom line I had something I wanted to say this person in private and currently the only way to do that is on Twitter is if the person is following you
I politely asked her to click on a button so I could communicate with her and she refused. Instead she wanted me to jump through a bunch of hoops
I could have just ignored her but I figured this would be a good controversial blog post and obviously i was right he he
End of Story
Jack
Calling YOU a social outcast??? It’s a heck of a lot nicer than calling you a snotty B….. (but no I wasn’t calling YOU anything. People spend so much time telling people how to use twitter, that they’re using it wrong, that they just don’t get it…. why bother hon? Why not let people have their own experience, and you have yours. How does a “controversial” blog post like this one do anything except show people that you call people names when they don’t play by your rules. Is that the kind of blog traffic that grows a business?? If it is, I’m perfectly willing to try out calling you names. I’ll even make a blog post calling you names. I have my doubts that it will bring me all I want in 2009, and I can’t see how it helps people.
At any rate, if your were writing this to create a controversial blog post then yo shuldn’t be expecting to have everyone agree with you.
Hey I bet if I go over to her blog.. (if I had a clue who she was) I wouldn’t see a post about you demanding that she follow you. I am also willing to bet, based on the responses here, that she gets a heck of a lot more traffic. *shrug…. something seems to be working, LOL
Cheers dude
(p.s. I still live you, I just thought I would create a bit of controversy LOL)
Miss Shelley,
You are NOT allowed to disagree with me on my blog
Remember I am all powerful and make the rules
Don’t let it happen again
Jack
You know, she had no obligation to follow you just because you asked her to. Clearly you favour being a Twitter whore (twhore?), whereas she seems to follow only people whom she knows or who interest her. So what? That doesn’t deserve your venom.
And, by the way, if someone twittered me with a ‘follow me so I can DM you’ message, I’d think two things:
What does this person want to say that can’t be said in a public forum? Why the need for DM when I don’t know them from a bar of soap?
What an arrogant tosser!
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I am Piter Kokoniz. oOnly want to tell, that I’v found your blog very interesting
And want to ask you: will you continue to post in this blog in future?
Sorry for my bad english:)
Tnx!
Your Piter
@JackBastide But SnottyBeotch is the search industry’s first agony aunt, here to answer your tricky questions about search engines.I’m sure! less than 5 seconds ago from web in reply to JackBastide